Am I Entitled?

it's been coming up for the last couple of years now this word entitlement have you ever wondered if you were entitled or maybe you know someone in your life who you feel is entitled I'm Yan Henman and today we're talking about the subject entitlement so what is entitlement what does it look like entitlement refers to a belief or an attitude that someone inherently deserves better treatment or certain privileges regardless of their actions or qualifications I was Doom scrolling the other today and this video popped up on my social media about this influencer who went to a restaurant and she ordered a meal and she was taking photos taking videos and then when the server came by to see how everything was tasting she demanded another meal and her justification for it was I'm an influencer I'm helping you in your business and this meal is now cold so I demand another meal and no I'm not going to pay for it a little ridiculous right so let's look at the characteristics of entitlement one having high expectations without having to meet a specific criteria or perform certain duties to avoiding responsibility for one's own actions or outcomes or blaming outside factors expecting others to compensate for them three perceived superiority feeling uh they are more deserving than others four resistant to criticism or feedback from others the thing is this is while entitlement shows up in exaggerated circumstances all the time and the perceived Karens or Chads in the world by the way no offense to any Karen's or Chads out there it also happens in smaller circumstances I've said this story before and I'm going to say it again um when my daughter was two she would spend the weekend with her dad and then I'd usually get her back Sunday morning so I'd have her Sunday through Friday morning she'd go to school and then her dad would pick her up and I know she was two we start school young overseas but she would come over Sunday and she'd walk in give me a big hug and say Mommy I love you I want a cookie and i' always tell her Sure Mia you can have a cookie after lunch well I don't want to wait until after lunch I want a cookie now well no you're not going to get a cookie now you have to have your lunch first and then you can have a cookie well I don't love you I only love Dad as a mom it bothered me and I didn't know why for the longest time it just I never said anything I never took it out on her I mean she's a toddler she's trying to she's like a little octopus she's trying to figure out how to get what she wants when she wants it long story short this happened week in week out and I remember thinking in my head like how can you say that to me like I do everything for you I've given up everything for you and then one day I wandered into uh my zen Master's office and he was giving a talk and he looked right at me and he said what makes you so special why do you think you deserve anything your job is to love and if you love rightly you're so fulfilled in loving that if you get anything back it is a bonus quit looking at your daughter and expecting anything from her and this was me kind of realizing that I was entitled like I'm looking at my 2-year-old like you owe me you owe me something no no she owes me nothing she didn't ask to be brought into the world I brought her in Nar got Maharaj what did he mean when he said love says that I'm everything wisdom says that I'm nothing between the two my life flows I feel like there's a fulcrum to be found in life yin and yang like there's a little bad in the good there's a little good in the bad there's a little light in the dark there's a little dark in the light but how do you know if you're entitled or not ask yourself these questions why do I need to be special who said that I was special why is it so important to me what do I make it mean about me if I'm not special have a think on this and let me know your thoughts because I think when we find the answers to these questions we can see where we're entitled and where we're not thank you for tuning in I'm Jana Hennemann remember to like follow subscribe leave us a comment and follow us on all of our social channels sign up for our Weekly Newsletter and I will see you again this time next week oh