RESPOND-ability Part 1

have you ever felt like you in your life has been dictated by outside forces or maybe you find yourself being angry stressed and overwhelmed more often than not hi I'm Jan Henman and today we're going to be talking about responsibility or respondibility as I like to call it it seems the topic of the month is throwing Tantrums arguing for your limitations or arguing with the universe or just arguing in general hey no judgment I too am guilty as charge um the best way to figure out a path is to course correct we have to tap that Rudder pivot adjust modify you get the idea why I bring this up is because a lot of the results that we experience in life have to do with how respond able we are to a situation or an experience do you respond to a situation or do you react I actually had a group of friends that I chatted with about this exact same topic and one of the goofy ones said this number one I react and throw a tantrum number two I be sad for a little bit number three I angrily respond to the situation and number four I go back to life as per usual he's a goofy goober that's his process if we could all minimalize the emotional reaction that we have to situations and perceived challenges we might be able to get over them a lot more quicker and actually enjoy the process responding to a situation is is rising to meet that demand rising to meet that challenge reacting to a situation is much more emotional maybe you've seen this in the form of road rage or perhaps you've had a family member or a colleague snap at you unexpectedly maybe you did the snapping again no judgment the point is this being respond able to a situation and reacting to a situation are two very different approaches we often see it in nature when a mama bear gives birth to a baby cub she does not go down to the river and she does not try to find all the fish that she can so her baby cub does not have to fish no she will take him down to the river and she will teach him how to fish right she's teaching him to be respond a she is helping him respond and rise to that challenge the challenge of being hungry the challenge of survival I've done it with my kiddo I remember um when we first moved back to the state she always had a house and she would lose it I'm not kidding at least once every 2 to 3 weeks finally after the third time of making her a copy of the key I was like the next time you lose it you are going to have to go pay for your key number one and number two you're going to have to go figure out the machine in the Walmart on South Glenstone and this is in Springfield Missouri and lo and behold a week later she loses her key so what do I do pack her up in the car tell her you have your money you're going to go inside Walmart you're going to go find that machine you're going to figure it out here's my key she did not like it she was uncomfortable it did not feel good for her but she went in at8 or N9 years old she's young and I'm a terrible mother or am I maybe I'm just teaching her respondibility she went in she figured out the machine she got her key paid her own money for it and then when she came back out she was just on Cloud9 just full of that confidence the point is this is I gave her a situation where she had to respond instead of react sure there was a little bit of reaction in the beginning but after she responded to the situation after she Rose to meet that challenge she came out a whole new girl by the way Sidetrack when emotions go up intelligence goes down when was the last time you were emotional and you made a rash decision that changed the course of your life yeah let's not do that emotions go up intelligence goes down you can react to a situation or you can respond to it she came out a whole new girl I'm Jana Hennemann thank you so much for tuning in remember to like follow subscribe leave us a comment let me know how you found this video and remember to sign up for our once a week newsletter no fluff just the good stuff and I will see you next Thursday